Wow! It's been 2 months since my last blog? Where does the time go? These past two months have definitely had their highs and lows. Today's blog is all about the lows..These past fews days I have been trying to prepare for July 22nd. This day will be one of the days which define me as a parent. I think we all have those parent defining moments, its just that usually we are given no warning! We just react as best we can, then after the fact, we sit in complete shock feeling beat up and second guessing if we had made the right move. Or is that just me? Let me give an example...I think my 1st parent defining moment with David happened at the age of 2 at Target. My lovely son decided he would throw a fit because I would only allow him to get 1 lego box. I warned him calmly that if he didn't stop asking we would leave the store empty handed. He didn't stop, so I picked him up and we left the store leaving behind a full shopping cart and the star wars lego box. He cried ALL the way home and well into the night, I knew I had done the right thing but I still felt beat up and emotionally drained. That was the one and only time David has ever thrown a fit in any store.
So back to July 22nd. This is supposed to be my daughter's first concert experience, I splurged and got the good seats for Maroon 5. All I asked her to do was improve her grades. Well, when the report cards came in in June, she had not improved and actually went down in 3 classes. That day was a tough one. My daughter tried everything! First she blamed the teachers, then the school system, then me. This was followed by the tears and lastly she just got angry. But, just like with David. I had set a limit, she did not respect it. The damage is done, the concert is off the table. Just like with David, I feel emotionally drained and beat up and I know the hardest day is still to come. So, Next Friday, me and the hubby will make a date night out of it. We will go to the concert and try to have a good time. But, it is killing us both and probably by the end of the night we both will be crying together over a few glasses of wine.
I think every single parent will or has had these parent defining moments. I remember my own defining moments with my own parents. It's a part of growing up and helps to mold our kids into who they will become. These past few weeks I have been talking to my friends and family about their parenting defining moments. Why don't we share these more? For me, it is these talks that are giving me the strength to get through July 22nd! Parenting is THE toughest job in the world and sometimes we all need back up! So shout out to my back up! You know who you are!! Bottom line, I know I have 2 amazing kids and we WILL make it through these hiccups. And if not, well, I'll pay for their therapy!(;
Hugs and Raspberries
L
